Trump Supporters and the Implicit bias frame

Trump supporters who still overlook his most hazardous downsides could be deploying the following implicit bias:

Confirmation Bias–Unconsciously collecting information that supports our original position by triggering implicit bias, or selective attention and perception. Here is a political example of the confirmation bias in action: Employing this bias we tend to seek out information that already conforms to our beliefs and assumptions while ignoring evidence that challenges our points of view. One example would be Trump’s supporters refusing to acknowledge how many times he’s contradicted himself. Think of the time Trump said this: “You [Megyn Kelly] have done a great job, by the way, and I mean it.” and then this: “I have zero respect for Megyn Kelly, I don’t think she’s very good at what she does.” (That is, among other comments about the Fox News anchor’s character.) By ignoring the contradiction, his supporters arrive at the conclusion that “[h]e’s never flip-flopped.”

Weekly Quote and Growth Mindset Challenge

Weekly Quote for Growth Mindset: “Ever more people today have the means to live, but no meaning to live for…We can discover meaning in life in three different ways: (1) by creating good work or doing a deed for others; (2) by experiencing something or encountering someone in a positive way; and (3) by the attitude we take toward life experiences and unavoidable suffering (learning).” Viktor Frankl

Coaching Challenge: Make your meaning by learning something new everyday and making the effort to do the best you can every moment by challenging yourself to overcome difficulties and learn the lessons provide you in every situation and every difficult interaction in life.

Having Problems with Goal Setting ? Try using Mental Contrasting Technique.

Daily Quote and Challenge:

” Mental contrasting when used by those with high expectations of success leads to increased goal commitment and energization.” Gabriele Oettingen,

In using mental contrasting or visualization technique to reach a personal change goal it is important to identify and picture how you will FEEL once you have attained your goal. To execute mental contrasting answer these two critical questions:

  1. What does success look like ?

 

2. How will you know when you have reached your goal?

 

Part I. Leadership Research: # 1 skill for Becoming Extraordinary Leader

High-Resolution Leadership a research study conducted by DDI identifies that “the single most important skill of a good leader may not be what you think. Although it is important to be visionary and a strategic thinker, a new study suggests that it’s more rooted in their daily conversations and interactions with people”.

According to DDI research on leadership, the leader who’s most effective in having successful conversations is most likely to do the best in developing their team and creating a successful business. “By the end of each day, leaders likely have had multiple conversations with a range of their constituents,” DDI’s researchers write. “Each of these interactions will collectively determine their ultimate success as a leader.”

This conclusion comes from a report called High-Resolution Leadership, which is the result of synthesizing assessments taken by 15,000 participants being considered for leadership from the front lines to executive levels at 300 companies in 18 countries. DDI evaluated the data from personality and intelligence tests as well as from “day-in-the-life” simulations that allowed participants to demonstrate their skills.

 

Vision of New 21st Century Leadership

Leadership and Growth Mindset

With increased self-awareness through dialogue and feedback from others comes more confidence in your ability to tackle challenges and be a collaborative leader. These practices are hallmarks of the work I do with clients, not only in our more formally organized leadership development programs, but also in my modules on self-coaching and growth mindset characteristics both of which provide people with extensive feedback on self-awareness and how others see them.

Out these insights I have developed a vision for what 21st century leadership looks like. In the 21st Century a leader’s ability to inspire others to “follow you over the hill” in the command and control style of leadership is of less importance than your ability “to align people around a sense of purpose and values…and then model and empower other people to step up and lead no matter what organizational position or level they are in. This sense of autonomy and self-direction are critical elements in this new style of leadership.

If you’re inspiring followers, self-awareness is less important than power and the natural charisma we’ve traditionally associated with strong leadership. Yet  if you’re aligning and empowering other leaders, your success will depend on your ability to connect with people not as “followers” but as independent decision-makers and to motivate and influence them by speaking to their needs and interests.  This requires a keen degree of self-awareness and the ability to see clearly through the eyes of others.

Self-Coaching Challenge: Learn the Power of Reflection to Increase Self-Awareness

Daily Quote: “This is the key to life: the ability to reflect, the ability to know yourself, the ability to pause for a second before reacting automatically. If you can truly know yourself, you will begin the journey of transformation.” Deepak Chopra

Reflection: If you are open to new ways to improve  your life both at work or home, you might want to try the Self-Coaching technique of “Self-Awareness through Reflection”. Increasing you ability to be more Self-Aware will keep you from living life on “autopilot” or feeling “stuck” by just moving through daily activities and tasks like this is all there is in life. This approach to living is boring and self-deflating to say the least. Self-Awareness and reflection is gaining in popularity because new neuroscience research on the brain’s ability to grow and expand. The Brain is more like a muscle than a fixed structure. The potential for expansion and learning through out life is getting more attention because it is important in helping you shape your thoughts and behavior which impact decisions about career, relationships, and your life.

Basically, Self Awareness and Reflection is the ability to process and gain understanding of what your experiences teach you about who you are and how to live a more fulfilling life. Self-awareness is important because it provides the opportunity to assess your strengths, recognize what is working for you and learn how others perceive and measure your competencies and capabilities. Learning how others react and perceive you helps to uncover “blindspots” which many times are the barriers for living a more productive and optimum life. A simple illustration of this is to overrate yourself as strong leader and get a false sense of pride out of it, only to be devastated when you receive feedback from your team that this not how they experience  and perceive you.

So in essence self-awareness is the capacity to reason about experiences and to use information about your effect on others to enhance one’s thoughts, plans, and life experience. Its chief components include recognizing personally relevant information about yourself from reflection and others, and using that information to create  a plan for personal changes and self-development.

If this doesn’t sound important, I will remind you of the fact that tens of thousands of individuals derail themselves by not acknowledging personal and professional behaviors and decisions that are not aligned with reality. They make wrong decisions about what jobs to take, what work environments to enter, who to work with, and by overrating their abilities and underrating their deficiencies lose touch with reality and become “stuck” and depressed about their lives. The good news is like so many personality and brain functions,you can develop new ways to think and behave that are more aligned with your goals to live a more meaningful and constructive life.

Your main tool for accomplishing these changes is to become more aware by using reflection and introspection. The key is to evaluate were you are now and where you would like to go in the future. Then reflect on the gaps between now and future and determine what needs to be changed.  For these changes to happen, self awareness and reflection plans must be clear, concrete and time-bound. This reflection process is a deliberate, time-consuming process that requires you to study yourself and others feedback to you so that you can assess yourself accurately.

Self-Coaching Challenge: Here is a methodology that I have used to coach executives and managers develop their self-awareness.

  1. Block off 30 minutes at the end of the day for reflection time.
  2. Select an one area of your personality that is not working for you or you would like to improve. Commit to reviewing and getting feedback on this area, such as your ability to listen to others or how you react to pressure or stress at home or work.
  3. Spend the designated time introspecting on the personality area you selected. As you reflect, think of real life examples where listening has been important for making decisions. Then, identify who was there and how you behaved in listen to their opinions or advice. Make the example as concrete and vivid as you can. Then, ask yourself some critical questions: In what way did you listen or not listen to others? Did you interrupt other people when they were talking? How long does it take you to criticize or reject ideas presented by others? When you are supposed to be listening are you really taking time to understand what the other person is saying or are building a rebuttal argument? to rebut you new information and what type of information is it easy or hard for you to learn? Are you a visual learner or auditory? Could you restate what the other person was trying to communicate to you to their satisfaction? Do you listen better in groups or individually? How did this interaction workout? What would you do differently to improve the outcome of the interaction?
  4. Reflect and Record your reflective observations in a journal. When capturing you reflections be sure to write down your thoughts and evaluate whether your behavior is following the 3-1 positivity ratio we have talked about in past posts. Having  a Self-Coaching journal will be useful to see how this negativity and lack positivity reflection keep you “stuck”.
  5. Develop a specific action plan to change your thinking so you can your behavior for the better.
  6. Then identify other areas of your thinking and behavior or habits you would like to change.

When doing more reflection I have one cautionary point –most of us are not very good at evaluating ourselves and consequently fail to be accurate in their assessment; they engage in self-deception. You can combat this tendency by thinking of multiple examples, rather than just one situation to review for each personality characteristic you study. You can also check the validity of your observations by asking trusted others for their thoughts and feedback about your level of competency on the characteristic you are trying to improve.

Self-Coaching Challenge: You are what you think

Daily Quote

“Our minds influence the key activity of the brain, which then influences everything; perception, cognition, thoughts and feelings, personal relationships; they’re all a projection of you”. Deepak Chopra, Philosopher 

Self-coaching is a skill that can be learned. It is the basic skill that underlies what we mean when we speak of having emotional and social intelligence. When you develop the skill of SC, you actually change the physical structure of the brain, your thinking and action. Dr. Dan Siegel in the book Mindset says: “This observation and revelation is based on one of the most exciting scientific discoveries of the last twenty years: How we focus our attention shapes the structure of the brain which impacts thinking and then behavior. Neuroscience has also definitively shown that we can grow and create new connections in the brain throughout our lives, not just in childhood. ” This finding provides a positivity not known in years before these new brain discoveries.

Self-Coaching Challenge:  Seek first the goal of personal development and reaching your full potential then everything else will take care of itself. What do you want to develop over the next 30 days. Make and plan the execute it.  For support read about Dr. Rock, a noted neuro-leadership scientist,  who has put together a practical model called SCARF for enhancing how to use the new research on the brain to improve leadership and workplace climate.

Positivity–How to get it and eliminate negativity

Negativity affects ourselves and everyone around us. It limits our potential to become something great and live a fulfilling, purposeful life. Negativity has a tangible effect on our health, too. Research has shown that people who cultivate negative energy experience more stress, more sickness, and less opportunity over the course of their lives than those who choose to live positively.

When we make a decision to become positive, and follow that decision up with action, we will begin to encounter situations and people that are also positive. The negative energy gets edged out by all positive experiences. It’s a snowball effect. Although negative and positive thoughts will always exist, the key to becoming positive is to limit the amount of negativity that we experience by filling ourselves up with more positivity.

 

Secret to connecting and effective Relationships—Review and reflect on this approach

No time for Judgments–they limit our view of others potential for growth.

” It is one of those simple  but beautiful paradoxes of life: When a person feels they are being judged or evaluated they resist personal change and become defensive. When a person feels truly accepted by another, then they are freed to look more truthfully at the effects of their words and behavior on others. As they become more open they can move from defensiveness and being stuck to thinking about how and in what ways they want to change in order to grow so that they might become more of what they are capable of being.”
― Mark W. Hardwick , Ph.D.

In almost every phase of our lives – at home, at school, at work – we find ourselves under the rewards and punishments of external judgments. “That’s good;” “that’s bad;” “that’s wonderful work;” “that’s stupid and a failure;” “that’s good coaching;” “that’s poor coaching.” Such judgments are a part of an attack on our self-efficacy and worth that goes on daily from infancy to old age. I don’t believe that judgments and evaluations provide any social purpose or usefulness to institutions and organizations such as the military, legislative bodies, schools or business organizations. Just think about the effectiveness of war in bringing about an end to conflicts etc.

Like everyone else, I find myself all too often making such judgments and in my experience, they do not make for effective relationships, reduction of interpersonal conflicts, or  increase in opportunities for personal growth, and therefore I do not believe that they are a part of  healthy, constructive or meaningful way to live your life. Curiously enough, a positive evaluation is as threatening in the long run as a negative one, since to inform someone that they are good implies that you also have the right to tell them about their short-comings or weaknesses. So I have come to feel that the more I can keep a relationship free of judgment and evaluation, the more this will provide more space for the other person to discover that to change or grow lies within themselves. They have the power to make choices and be responsible for how they are going to live their life.  The meaning and value of what to do in different situations in the last analysis is something which is up to them. My role becomes more supportive and helpful the more I move away from advice giving or judgment. I have learned that no amount of pressure or external rewards can persuade someone to do something they are not committed to do.  So I should like to work toward developing relationships in which I am not evaluating or judging other people’s choices or behavior. This I believe can set people free to discover their strengths and be a self-responsible person.

No Bullshit–This is the one and only tip you need to become a Great Public Speaker.

 

One Big IDEA on Presentations and Public Speaking—

 

#1 RULE : Presentations  are and need to be an  “Intimate Conversation” whose sole purpose is to connect with the audience. Period.  To succeed keep “top of the mind” that an effective speech to 2000 people or 2 people is an intimate and compelling 1-on-1 conversation.

Daily Quote: Optimism Quotient

Daily Quote: ” Don’t cry because it’s over, smile because it happened.” Dr. Seuss

 

Optimism, which produces these positive, brain chemicals, reduce many anxiety symptoms and can provide presenters with the ability to focus and concentrate on the activity at hand.

 

By learning to “look on the bright side,” of challenges and seeing stressful situations like presenting or professional acting as opportunities for growth you increase the likelihood of producing a positive mental and arousal state.  This positive mental state leads to a chain of biochemical events that mobilize the brain and the body to cope more effectively with the situation.  A positive reaction to stress can then lead to what Dr. Loher, calls the challenge response which counteracts the negative effects of stress and improve your performance and enjoyment in any performance art. Specifically, presenting and speaking to groups becomes more pleasurable and produces positive energy. The challenge response helps presenters to be more calm, relaxed, energetic, inspired  and open to audience needs and reactions. 

 

Most of us are familiar with the popular definition of an optimist as a person who sees a glass as half full, while a pessimist sees it as half empty. Optimists have the self-awareness to stop, challenge their thinking and choose to feel hopeful about how they see a situation and its outcome.  Optimists are positive thinkers who practice positive “self-talk.” They tell themselves “this is fun”…I can…I want to”.  Pessimists are negative thinkers who “make stuff up” which is detrimental to their confidence and ability to perform at high performance levels. Their self-interference and attention to the darkish side of situations lead to poor performance.  Pessimists have a tendency to get in their own way, by distorting their perception and acting on these distortions to produce results they do not want. For example, they see audiences as adversaries; worry about how they are being received; lack confidence that they can speak without a complete text or from copious notes.  This lack of self-confidence and negative messages about our ability to perform increases self-doubt and leads to trying to overcontrol situations, which interferes with the natural learning process.  Positive thinking, can help presenters to make a conscious effort to enjoy presentations and overcome a surprising number of fears and anxieties.

Recommendations and Action Steps for building your Optimism Quotient

 

  1. Find a role model. Find someone who seems to make the best of any given presentation situation. Find out how that person maintains that attitude, and copy the behavior. This is called “Best Practices”.  Chances are, even during difficult times optimism helps your role model get through the battle with fewer negative effects.
  2. Practice positive self-talk and affirmations. Tell yourself positive things every day for a month (“I can do the job,” “I like myself,” etc.). Practice positive self-talk for at least one month before judging how it has affected your attitude. Affirmations are positive, motivating statements.  Use short “I am” statements: “I am happy with my job.”  Say the affirmation out loud several times, then imagine it happening.
  3. Fake it till you make it—Practice Being Positive. See your presentation as a challenge for development rather than a treaded activity.
  4. Here and Now” focus—Clear your mind of poor past performances and concentrate on your goal and message. Before presentation visualize your audience, speech and outcomes. Enjoy the moment and have fun.
  5. Practice the Stop—Think—Choose technique for focusing attention
  6. Relaxation techniques—Fully prepare to remain mentally, physically and emotionally tough through positive thoughts. Achieve momentary relief by practicing deep breathing, flexing and relaxing different muscle groups. Be committed to remain flexible, responsive and respectful of participants.  Try to practice the 10 second stress reduction response when you feel nervous, anxious or stressed.

10 Second Stress Reduction Response:

  • Take deep breath and say to yourself
  • My body is relaxed
  • My mind is alert
  • My eyes are twinkling
  • And there is a smile on my face.
  1. You perform like you eat—always have a nourishing meal before presenting; consume some form of carbohydrates and fiber two hours before the presentation. Be careful of caffeine. Drink only one or two cups before presenting and have plenty of water before and during the presentation.
  2. Find a coach or build a support system for change. Put together an action plan for change. Commit to prepare and practice speeches at least twice before the performance.  Find a psychologically safe environment like the Toastmasters Club to practice improving your speaking techniques, attend a two or three presentation camp or training session for presenters.  

 

Conclusion

No one is optimistic all the time.  But anyone can learn how to adopt a more positive, healthier attitude.  When you practice being an optimist, you’ll be on your way to be more confident, relaxed, humorous and effective as a presenter.

Want more Success and Impact on Others? Research says: Fake It until you make it

Daily Quote: “Live as if you liked yourself, and it may happen.” Marge Piercy, Poet

Reflection: What Piercy is telling us to do is when you’re not sure of what to be just “Fake it until you make it.” In words create your own personal self-fulfilling philosophy. Dr. James Loher a colleague makes this powerful insight about “faking it” “pretending that you’re happy–requires you to smile, be engaged by mimicking positive energy and enthusiasm–not only can this approach earn you some of the benefits of happiness (returned smiles, connecting with others successes as a public speaker or at work and school but can actually make you happier.”  Why does this “fake it till you make it work? How can acting like you are happy make you happy?

Researcher’s On this subject focus primarily on two reasons for this phenomena one internal and one external.

1. Internally, our brains interpret the positive thoughts and physical manifestations of happiness by releasing adrenalin, testosterone  and dopamine ( pleasure drug) levels into the blood stream while decrease cortisol (stress hormone) so that  we actually experience the emotion to a greater extent. and shows through our external appearance to others and says not in words I am confident and happy to be with you.
2. Externally, our manifestations of happiness are typically mirrored by others, creating a cycle of positive emotions of confident appearance and tone of voice, twinkling eyes, smile and relaxed posture other body language signals of the emotions itself.

Body language affects how others see us, but it may also change how we see ourselves. Social psychologist Amy Cuddy shows how “power posing” — standing in a posture of confidence, even when we don’t feel confident — can affect testosterone and cortisol levels in the brain, and might even have an impact on our chances for success. Don’t miss this TED video by Dr. Cuddy where she presents very insightful research and findings on how “faking it” can influence power and dominance in relationships.

 

 

Learning… By MW Hardwick

Learning … by MW Hardwick 

I now see the world with new eyes.

I see the benefits of trying new ways,

To learn—I observe, experience, reflect and listen

I see a model to follow and read about a new way

and I now know I can learn anything.

No matter how difficult or time consuming

learning comes through effort and practice

I keep an open mind and change comes naturally

if I stay focuses the payoff is great…

if I persevere I can win..

If I am praised I can stagnate and lose

What will you choose? What will you choose?

 

Want Continuous Growth and Development in Your Life? Learn the Self-Efficacy Approach

Daily Quote:  “Education is not preparation for life; education is life itself…we do not learn from experience… we learn from reflecting on experience…self  is not something ready-made, but something in continuous formation through choice of action.” John Dewey 

 

Reflection: According to Albert Bandura, self-efficacy is “the belief in one’s capabilities to organize and execute a course of action required to manage prospective situations.” In other words, self-efficacy is a person’s belief in his or her ability to succeed in a particular situation. Bandura described these beliefs as determinants of how people think, behave, and feel (1994).

Self-Efficacy is one of the strong theoretical underpinnings of the Self-Coaching Plus 1 Model. From this self-belief PLUS 1 recognizes the power of self-discovery, self-direction, SELF-DEVELOPMENT CHALLENGES in fostering the opportunity to learn and become a fully functioning person. It also recognizes the need for an approach that provides “structure and a process” for sustaining awareness and encouraging choices based on what is best for the individual at this moment of time.

Self-Coaching Challenge : Self-Coaching is all about caring for and growing your worth and best version of self. Seek opportunities that excite you and inspire you to wake up in the morning. Build a purposeful growth plan by experimenting with opportunities you actually care about. Take the self-evaluation questionnaire–Best Version of Self to help identify your strengths and talents.

The Discovery your Strengths exercise is a simple, structured process that helps you identify, and make the most of your strengths. It is a tool to support your goal for becoming more self-aware of your personal strengths. During the Self-Coaching “structure with process”  framework we are concerned about you focusing on strengths rather than weakness because research shows higher success rates for increasing self-development and performance are greatly enhanced by playing to your strengths rather than weaknesses.

Step 1: Reflect and list your top 10 strengths.

Step 2. Survey Others About Your Strengths

Identify ten or so individuals who are in a position to give you accurate feedback about your strengths. This group should include current colleagues, but also,  former colleagues, friends and family members. Then, ask them to think about what your strengths are, and to give an example to back up every strength they identify. The strengths can be from both work and non-work settings. In this step, your feedback group needs to understand why you’re asking for feedback on your strengths and that you’re not just fishing for compliments (which would be embarrassing for all concerned).If you’re to worried to do this, identify 10 people who like you and know you well. Ask yourself what these people would say your strengths are. Remember, though, that your answers won’t be as good if you don’t ask other people.

Step 2: Identify Themes

Once you have all of the responses in from your survey group, start to group the responses together into themes. Some of the themes may reflect strengths you were aware of, but they may also identify things that you hadn’t realized were strengths because they come so naturally to you.

Step 3: Write Your Strengths Profile

Next, draw together the key strengths that have emerged from your analysis, and tie them together in a few paragraphs that summarize in ten characteristics what you’re really good at. When you’re writing this, bear in mind that you’ll use this in the future in two ways: first, to guide future actions and choices, and second to shore up your confidence when times get tough.

Step 4: Identify How You Can Play to Your Strengths

With a clear idea of your strengths, take a long, hard look at your current position and role at work or with the family.  Are you playing to your strengths? If not, can you adapt the focus and nature of your work and interactions to use more of your strengths?

For example, are you really a “people person” who’s spending half a day a week building project reports? Is there someone in your team who would be better suited to this kind of work, and be grateful for the extra responsibility, while you spend the extra time coaching team members?

Step 5: Set a timeline for evaluating your progress in using your strengths to become a more constructive person.

Self-Coaching Challenge: Significant Emotional Experience (SEE) and Personal Development

We all have a story to tell..What is your story? Below find your Self-Coaching challenge for the month: Exploring your personal story and the concept of seeing how a “significant emotional experience” (SEE) effects your present thinking and action will be a challenging assignment. A SEE may come at any point in your life. It could result from a positive or negative experience or a missed opportunity at any age. But as much as we all want positive experiences, transformations for many people result only from going through them and then facing the repercussions of the SEE event. SEE is an experience that shapes your personality and outlook on the world and impacts people’s thinking and character development. This type of experience can be triggered by events such as confronting a difficult boss or authority problems at work, receiving critical and devastating feedback, or losing your job. Or it may result from a painful personal experience, such as abuse, divorce, illness, physical or mental health issues or the death of a loved one.

Your SEE tests you to the core of your being. It forces you to look at your beliefs and values, examine your character and your behavior in a new light, and come to grips with who you are. Examined in retrospect, your SEE may become the defining experience in your life, even if you do not recognize it when you are in the middle of the experience.

Passing through the Cycle of SEE–or reframing it later with the benefit of hindsight–you will see the world differently, and thus you will behave differently as well. It is during such a passage that you recognize that your life not primarily about your own success or about getting others to do what you want them to do. Rather, you understand that the essence of being an independent and constructive person is supporting yourself to find more self-belief through self-awareness.

An example, of SEE in the work place, we hear a great deal about downsizing in modern-day organizations or about unengaged and poorly motivated employee or the midlife crisis of an executive. I believe that except for downsizing which is a euphemism for out sourcing jobs overseas, these events show that many people are bored at work. Also, they have loss their passion for what they are doing. Or are trapped in a dead-end or boring job. Dr.Peter Drucker, the management guru of the 20th Century, in the March-April 1999 issue of the Harvard Business Review, an article entitled “Managing Oneself” (reprinted in January 2005 as Classic in Management literature weigh in on this issue when he said: “At 45-50 most executives have reached the peak of their business careers, and they know it. After 20 years of doing very much the same kind of work, they are very good at their jobs. But they are not learning or contributing or deriving challenge and satisfaction from the job… That is why managing oneself increasingly leads one to begin a second career; typically by moving from one kind of organization to another; by developing a parallel career, often in a nonprofit; or by starting a new venture…”

It is a given and known fact that no one can expects to live very long without experiencing a serious setback or some kind of SEE experience in their life or work… At such times, a second major interest–not just a hobby–may make all the difference…In a knowledge society…we expect everybody to be a success. this is clearly an impossibility. For a great many people, there is at best an absence of failure. Wherever there is success, there has to be failure. And then it is vitally important for the individual, and equally for the individual’s family, to have a “plan B” in place which will support them in these times of crisis.  That means finding a second area–whether in a second career, a parallel career, or a social venture–that offers an opportunity for being a more constructive person who is respected for who and what they do in life.

Self-Coaching Challenge: Try the following exercise to examine how you have dealt with “significant emotional experiences” in your life. This exercise is straight forward but will provide information which is powerful:

Pair and Share Exercise: Stop and reflect on an SEE in your life. Write your story-up and share it with a friend or colleague to get feedback on your decision-making and behavior in this critical moment in your life. Ask them to give you feedback on how this event stacks up with your present behavior. What are your strengths in this situation? How does this event display characteristics of your present outlook when interacting with others, your attitude toward authority, need for fairness or status in life?

Part II: Overcoming your Demons through 10 Self-Coaching Challenges

Do you see the “Glass half-full ?  Do you focus on the past and bad decisions or broken dreams? These are just two reasons that your demons and primitive brain are winning.  How do you overcome them?

Self- Coaching Challenge:

Think Straight, ACT STRAIGHT.

1. Eat Smart, Exercise and never give up HOPE for a better LIFE–Feel ALIVE.

2. Embrace Stress-It is the Spice of Life

3. Practice Mindfulness by mediating everyday

4. Be grateful for what you have

5. Don’t focus on past mistakes

6. Build a support team and eliminate bad practices and relationships

7. Don’t complain. Either change situation, learn to cope, or react differently.

8. See mistakes as opportunities to learn.

9. Find a passion. Make your hobby your life work–own it: art, tennis poetry etc.

10. Don’t bother comparing yourself to others—this only leads to frustration.

Want to read more on overcoming demons see Part I-  http://wp.me/pnKb1-29t