When Trust is Broken…Lesson from the Anthony Weiner Debacle

‘ I’m not upset that you lied to me, I’m upset that from now on I can’t believe you.” Frederich Nietzsche

“The glue that holds all relationships together – including the relationship between; the leader and the led is trust, and trust is based on TELLING THE TRUTH AND INTEGRITY. MWH

The only person who now can correct this situation is Representative Weiner. He needs to make a difficult choice about whether to stay or resign his position in Congress. Based on the information revealed so far and the standards of Congress he now needs to do the right thing—resign. Let’s get beyond this distraction and start solving the rel problems ofAmerica—the need for quality jobs and a thriving economy. What do you think?As the American public contemplates another man acting badly (Congressman Weiner’s lewd behavior and cover-up) I reflected that at the core of this issue is broken trust. When we look at Weiner’s and many other men’s inappropriate and embarrassing personal behavior we see a lack of impulse control and in general an inability to monitor their testosterone urges. They have difficulty anticipating or measuring consequences for their action or think they are to powerful to be held accountable for their actions. Remember that trust is the glue that holds and keeps relationships together. Without trust you lose credibility and without credibility it is difficult to do your job for the people you are representing. Connecting with others becomes difficult, and collaboration to solve problems next to impossible. To be trustworthy means to be dependable or that you can be counted on to do what you said you will do (DWYSYWD).

Does White House–Know how to treat supporters with respect and dignity?

“Power has only one duty — to secure the social welfare of the People.” Benjamin Disraeli

Maybe it’s time for the “White House” to put away their rabbit ears and be less sensitive to suggestions and disappointments voiced by  the liberal or progressive left. We ar not “fucking retards”  as Mr Emanuel, Chief of Staff said. Or to paraphrase Robert Gibbs, White House Communications guru, said yesterday–Liberals don’t give the President enough credit and won’t be happy till we have a Canadian Nationalized Health Care System etc. Remember power resides with the wealthy–that’s why people say: Wealth is power, and power is the only thing about which contemporary culture cares.

I think both Gibbs and the Rahm Emanuel comments are unfortunate and maybe symbolic of the “tin ear” and strategic clumsiness of the White House Staff. Have they forgotten all the time, money and work people put in to get the President elected.  We don’t expected to be taken for granted just because we don’t have any other place to go. But we do want this President to succeed and that can not happen by compromising with ourselves, playing nice with a greedy and self-serving political opposition who have no intentions of collaborating on solutions for the worst economic problems and job crisis since the Great Depression. The  just say NO folks want the President to fail so they can return to the failed policies that caused most of these problems in the first place.

People want their leaders to be responsive and sensitive to solving real problems. The elected officials need to take responsibility for creating environments that encourage  open and respectful discussions ( not name calling), problem resolution ( not filibusters that stop constructive action on solving problems) and truth-telling ( not made-up bullshit to harm the opposition) and development of an informed and educated citizenry.  People in leadership positions set a tone for public discussions. Furthermore, our leaders need to model good behavior in which people feel valued as unique individuals.

So let’s get back to working together to build a better America. If at the very least, if you feel powerless and insecure at work and other community and organizational environments to create a civil and respectful tone, you still have the power and role when interacting with friends and family to create a positive climate of respect, growth and security. Remember, people grow in places where honesty, integrity and trust can be counted on and rewarded. What have you done lately to create a healthy environment where you work and live?

The quote and reflection of the Day– LEADERS AND FOLLOWERS


Dwight Eisenhower once said,

“In order to be a leader a man must have followers. And to have followers, a man must have their confidence. Hence, the supreme quality for a leader is unquestionably integrity. Without it, no real success is possible, no matter whether it is on a section gang, a football field, in an army, or in an office. If a man’s associates find him guilty of being phony, if they find that he lacks forthright integrity, he will fail. His teachings and actions must square with each other. The first great need, therefore, is integrity and high purpose” (Dwight D. Eisenhower, Great Quotes From Great Leaders, ed. Peggy Anderson, Lombard: Great Quotations, 1989).


Many times people are so arrogant and ego-centric they think that they got to their position of leadership without help or support of others. They think they deserve the position and that all that was required was hard work and perseverance.  This ego centric statement denies the fact that followers and supports trusted them and supported them in their climb to the top. I think it is important to thank those who provide advice and support for you on the climb. When you reflect how to connect with others the core element for success is being authentic and truthful with yourself . The truth is that luck, circumstances and others always help you to achieve the status and position you are now in. Humility and gratitude are qualities that followers admire especially after they help you reach a position of leadership. Maybe we need to add this to Eisenhower’s powerful definition of the relationship between leaders and followers. Maybe the real principle here is to always thank others for their support and never take them for granted. What do you think?