1. Look for some past positive experiences or bright spots rather than on negative things to change our situation and move through being “stuck”.
Psychologists and behavioral change research tell us that we are wired to look at the negative. One famous study concluded that, when it comes to the way we think, “negative thinking is stronger than positive thinking and emotions .” So when it comes to getting unstuck in some area of our life, we’ll tend to ask ourselves, “What’s the problem and how do I fix it?” But often we can benefit more by asking a different question: “What is working and how can I do more of it?” In other words, we can learn from our own “positive experiences or bright spots.”
2. Finish incompletions in your life. Being stuck or frustrated could be as easy as something being incomplete or unfinished. Incompletions are energy drainers and barriers that often fly below our radar. They unconsciously sap our energy and creativity and cause us to withdraw and doubt ourselves and ruminate about our past hurts or failures. Incompletions can be as easy as clutter or disorganization in you home or work areas. Some common examples are: a cluttered work space, messy clothes closets or a broken bike or dirty car etc. Old to-dos that you know you are not going start or finish, unopened mail, poor follow-up on job ideas or,unanswered e-mails, , or phone calls to friends or relatives. Incompletions drain energy and show up as lower levels of energy, resentments, negative attitudes, self-pity, broken promises, or putting off important priorities in life. Some bigger incompletions are not finishing a College degree, upgrading skills, writing that article or poem floating around in your mind.
Pick one thing in the next 24 hours that has been nagging you because of incompletion and complete today or by the end of thend you will be amazed at the shift in your energy and attitude about life and other incomplete things in your life.
You don’t necessarily have to complete the situation but start the process:
- What is nagging you and incomplete in your life?
- What will have to be done to complete it? Be specific. What will it look like when complete?
- What action do you need to start right away? Write them down.
- Schedule your actions and be clear about when you intend to be finished.
- Do you need resources or support like a friend or a trigger to help you get started and hold you accountable?
- Start something right away today–don’t delay.
Complete this one incompletion by using Smart-steps and or the Plus 1 technique you will be amazed at how you feel and how these actions will pull every area of your life forward so that you begin to thrive rather feeling “stuck” or sleep walking in life.
3. Practice Mindfulness daily to improve health, focus and a sense of well-being. So what is this miracle practice? Mindfulness means clearing our minds of distractions by maintaining a moment-by-moment awareness of our thoughts, feelings, bodily sensations, and surrounding environment. It means being present in the “here and now”. Mindfulness also involves self-acceptance, meaning that we pay attention to our thoughts and feelings without judging them—without believing, for instance, that there’s a “right” or “wrong” way to think or feel in a given moment. When we practice mindfulness, our thoughts tune into what we’re sensing in the present moment rather than rehashing the past or imagining the future.
Though it has its roots in Buddhist meditation, a secular practice of mindfulness has entered the mainstream in recent years because of the research and writings of Jon Kabat-Zinn and his Mindfulness-Based Stress Reduction (MBSR) program, which he launched at the University of Massachusetts Medical School in 1979. Since that time, thousands of studies have documented the physical and mental health benefits of mindfulness in general and reduction in stress and anxiety in particular.
- Gratitude puts situations into perspective. When we can see the good as well as the bad, it becomes more difficult to complain and stay stuck.
- Gratitude helps us realize what we have. This can lessen our need for wanting more all the time.
- Gratitude strengthens relationships, improves health, reduces stress, and, in general, makes us happier, according to Dr. Emmons, who explains his research in this video.
5. Learn something new every day…be a life-long student.
Self-coaching Challenge. Try one of these 5 proven techniques for personal change and the feelings of being “stuck” will lift from your shoulders and provide clarity about how you have been blocking and stopping you from creating a more effective and fulfilling life. You then can use this clarity and positive action steps to move beyond your negative mindset and frustrations of being “stuck” and feel more valued and respected as a worthwhile human being. Good Luck and keep us posted on your successes.