Launch of Legacy Project–On Lessons Learned to Share with people in their 20’s

Legacy Project –May .13.2013 Learning from Hindsight–Seeing the Past with new eyes…

I have often wonder why younger people or for that why organizations or the government ( Viet Nam lessons not learned , so we plunged into Irag on false pretenses and little understanding of the differences of the Mid-East  culture or ideology and religions of the region) This approach to living seems to be set in stone. So we repeat mistakes that older generations have already experienced. I know the old saw that if you don’t study and understand history you are bound to repeat it. But that explanation is not enough. Maybe the younger folks just are not listen, or better yet maybe the older folks are not trying hard enough to share the lessons we have learned.  I would change the direction from external problems of health, Social Security prisons, politics and food to a more personal conversation. I have always been interested in reading and collecting the wisdom, stories and quotes of the ages. These would be reflections and principles that have guided your life and can be passed on to the next generation. As we all approach the “next act” of our life I wanted us to stop and take an inventory of lessons learned. These ideas, lessons, and thoughts will focus on how to enjoy a rich and fulfilling life.

These life lessons are made of experiences, stories, and teachings that you and I carry forward from our parents, grandparents, aunts and uncles, friends, teachers, and mentors in life. These are the things we learned through our personal development and life experiences. These are the messages you might want to share with your grandkids or other younger people that might guide them through the ups and downs of life. I sense, in my discussions with people, a desire to pass on something more than material wealth. Many people have shared with me that they want to pass on something of themselves –something of the meaning and the spirit of living a fulfilling and good life. I think there is a yearning in all of us to share who we are and what life has meant and taught us.

So how shall we start the conversation? I have crafted the following thought starter questions to get us started. Please reflect and jot down your responses to the questions before the meeting and come prepared to share your insights and wisdom.

1. Let’s begin by sharing our most favorite quote in how to live life– I love this one–

“Satisfaction in life lies in the effort, not in the attainment. Full effort is full victory.”  Mahatma Gandhi: non-violent activist who helped lead India to independence. He was assassinated in 1948.

Your favorite quote:


What meaning does this quote have for you and why is it a favorite?


What is the lesson  underlining this quote that you would want to pass on to the next generation?


Please pass this post on to all your friends and have then pass-on their ideas by emailing me at mwhardwick44@gmail .com or my face book page. Thanks for contributing you maybe providing a 20 something an idea or experience that will save them from pain or harm in the future. Or better yet with an opportunity to create a more meaningful life.

Boston Terrorism puts Everything in Perspective–One simple question for your Reflection

So sad and senseless is the tragedy in Boston I have only on question today–this haunting question comes from one of my favorite poets–Mary Oliver.

Quote: “Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?”


Daily Quote and Reflection: Work and the Principle of Meaning

Daily Quote and Reflection: It is impossible to have a great life unless it is a meaningful life. And it is very difficult to have a meaningful life without meaningful work. -Jim Collins, Author of Good to Great

Reflection: Have you ever contemplated what is the difference between work and play? Many people when ask to do this reflection say to me –work is work. It doesn’t have anything to do with play. Maybe maybe not I reply. I say what about organizations like  Southwest Airlines (Fun LUVing attitude not just words but real action in creating a family atmosphere and support programs to make communities a better place to live and work. The attitude is made-up of these principles–

  • Have FUN
  • Don’t take yourself too seriously
  • Maintain perspective
  • Celebrate successes
  • Enjoy your work
  • Be a passionate Teamplayer

The essence of work at Southwest Airlines  is  doing good while having fun. Of course there are many other organizations embracing this philosophy of meaning and fun at work like Tom’s of Maine, Zappos, and Patagonia who’s mission is to: Build the best product, cause no unnecessary harm, use business to inspire and implement solutions to the environmental crisis..

Let’s brainstorm for a second the characteristics of work vs. play. Work conjectures up characteristics and thoughts of : required activity, pay for results or services, to survive and put a roof over your head, paid to do it, have to, sweat, challenge, bosses, be told what to do and how to do it, how to behave, command and control, schedules, boring, supervision, structured routine, time pressure etc… vs Play– want to, engaged, spontaneity, fun, freedom to choose, smiles, do it because I love the activity, enjoy the people playing with me, time is mine, etc…

So the question becomes how do we put more fun and meaning into work?

Daily Quote and Reflection: Making A Difference through Hope and Constructive Meaningful Living

My personal Vision: (passion, people and purpose) Is to bring love, trust, joy and inspiration into the community, workplace and my family by making a difference 1 person at a time, 1 day at a time, and 1 moment to moment at a time. This is what I call Constructive and Meaningful Life Coaching. Stop fooling and lying to yourself–If you surround yourself with people who speak the truth, and you lean in to what you do best, then the next step is to start evaluating your goals for 2013 with your head on straight and heart in the right place. You will never get anywhere unless you’re clear about where you are now and where you want to go, and how you are going to get to the future. You need to be clear on your goal, resources and support and the barriers you need to get through to do to get there.

What is stopping you from doing the things you need to do to gain control and improve your live?  So stop lying and denying the need for change. Embrace the reality and truth of your situation. Then put together a practical plan and start executing against that plan for change with the Smart-Step process. Here is my gift to you a friendly nudge and promise of support when you slip back into old habits or ways of thinking and acting that are self-defeating and rob you of creating and sustaining a meaningful and purpose filled life.

My Mission: To provide through teaching, consulting and coaching a way for people to become lifelong learners and problem solvers. I want you to reach your  full potential for living a balanced and fulfilling quality of life. Living and learner in this manner is the acknowledgement and embrace of hope and personal development through experience, reflection and problem solving. This process will require continuous assessment and feedback on your behavior. It will require the ability to be open in identifying new opportunities and challenges, being flexible in recreating, and updating your mental maps of the world through learning and planning and finally building support systems that mobilize you toward desired actions that make a difference in the world day in day out.

Key Principle in My Mission is the belief that Hope can make a Difference.  Hope is the glue that integrates our being and the magnet that attracts our resources and acts as the antidote to fear.  “To hope,” wrote Eric Fromm, “means to be ready at every moment for that which is not yet born, yet not to become desperate if there is no birth in our lifetime.” We cannot go on living without it.  Hope requires a strong personal believe and a positive self based on a belief that you can make a difference.  Hope requires that you acknowledge your strengths and that you are the primary change agent in your life. It requires that you sort through the events and things in life you can control and let go of those things that are beyond your control.  At the center of hope is an optimistic view of life.  It allows you to see positive things from dismal events by accepting the hurt feelings and pain; always trying to see the bright silver on the other side of despair and move on when you are ready. Hope is realizing the good fortunes and success you have had in the past and remembering that they will come your way again in the future.  It is risking and taking chances. “For to try and fail is at least to learn, but to fail to try is to suffer the loss of what life might have been.”

Part 2: Legacy and Finding your Purpose in Life

“It is essential to follow your commitments 100% of the time—Do you have a clear and meaningful life compass.”  HBR May 22, 2012 Clay Christianson

While vision and purpose in living a meaningful and constructive life are critical, they are rare. This is due to the fact that most individuals lead a frenetic and short-term life focused on activities, daily pressures, and attempts at immediate gratification. Many of us loss site of the “big picture” because life can be so tenuous and fragile. Research in Neurology ( brain), Social Psychology and Adult Development fields can facilitate our understanding of these life strategies. To summarize, research from the marshmallow studies on immediate gratification, brain scans, and emotional, intellectual, perceptual and development studies of adults suggest that effective problem solving, decision-making, personal development, effective communication and influence are not a random or prescriptive like a “bell-shaped curve” based on abilities or intelligence factors, but to large extent a function of emotional intelligence, openness to life-long learning, and one’s perceptual maps and world view.

Transformation occurs when existing maps, solutions, assumed truths and past decisions are exposed as unrealistic, and this new insight allows one to view the world from a more appropriate and empowering perspective. Here is what two prominent psychologist have said about development and personal change.

“The path of personal transformation is primarily a process of becoming aware of, facing up to and taking responsibility for one’s thoughts, feelings and actions, and then expanding this self-realization by communicating with others, retaining integrity whatever the response, and further enhancing the quality of communication with ever-increasing empathy and understanding. Through understanding others better, we can recognize their essential goodwill, however misguided it might have become, and begin to recognize the spirituality of humankind. ”

Abraham Maslow, Ph.D.

Rollo May, a distinguished psychologist,  describes the anxiety caused by a threat to some value which the individual holds essential to his development and existence as the self that he knows. He also quotes Kierkegaard: “Anxiety is the dizziness of freedom.” May’s approach is existential: he conceives the self as a dynamic entity, alive with potentiality. His approach is also holistic, seeking to understand the whole reality and essence of a person’s being. Man is thought of as being and becoming, as a dynamic process, as a complex organism in relation to the universe. However, if an insight or perception is too hard at the moment, if it causes too much anxiety and threatens established beliefs – of self and/or of others – then it may be repressed, and cause fixation of development and afterwards be hidden by defenses.

What secrets or insights can you offer for creating a personal vision and purpose?

Let it be a life…Having Dignity and meaning

Quote: Let it be a life that has dignity and meaning for you. If it does, then the particular balance of success or failure is of less account.”  John Gardner 

Reflection: THIS QUOTE IS ALL ABOUT CAPTURING  YOUR LIFE UP TO THIS MOMENT… KEEPING SCORE ON HOW I AM MAKING A DIFFERENCE or how am I living with a clear purpose and meaning in life.

Action Point: Are you living on purpose or sleep walking through life barely keeping your head above water. When are going to define a clear purpose for your life? Maybe today is the day to start!!!!!!!!!!!!! 

Learn More Persuasive Presentation Techniques–10 Secrets of Steve Jobs.

“People with Passion and Perseverance can Change the World” Carmine Gallo

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