Become A Dynamic Self-Coach–Learn to use Self 3: The C.O.A.C.H. Framework

“There is always an inner game being played in your mind no matter what outer game you are playing. How aware you are of this game can make the difference between success and failure.” Tim Gallwey

We have all heard about Tim Gallwey’s Self 1 ( critical) and Self 2 (natural) elements when playing the inner game from tennis to stress management. These books are wonderful in the way they teach readers about distortion in perception, listening, controlling and overcoming self-talk, and many other interference factors in high performance behavior.  Now there is more support than ever for these concepts because of a break through in behavioral, neurological and brain chemistry research. My goal in this blog is to bring ideas from the new research into a new concept called “High Performer” Self 3–This concept is based in a framework called “Process with Structure” Model that produces control of mental process, self-awareness, development of keen observation and focus on strengths development beyond your natural self 2 awareness and  action to access on demand to be the “best you can be so as produce productive behaviors and desired results.

Self 3–Is the process of learning how to access clear and positive thinking, positive self-talk, mental toughness and performance excellence in critical situations. The “performing (Self 3) is based on clear thinking, observation and action focus that eliminates environmental and mental interference and distortions, such as loss of clarity and confidence, sabotaging self-doubts and fear of failure.

Self 3 builds on the  original models of Inner game, Flow, Improvisation, Choice Theory and Cognitive Behavioral methods to increase self-awareness, acceptance and positive outlook in making effortless and meaningful life decisions, choices and action a reality. In this way, the Self 3 process empowers you by freeing you by using the power of doing what is in your control to do and to face your true wants .


Self 3 Process with Structure Framework called  C.O.A.C.H.                                                                                                                           

  1. C = clarifying and reviewing your goals, needs and wants for achievement; then integrating different messages from Self 1 and Self 2 to get instantaneous agreement for what action is required.
  1. O= observations and focus Attention on our thinking and emotions about  what needs to be accomplished in regard to our behavior, people’s reaction and situation we find ourselves in.
  • What is the status of your current situation?
  • Reflect and review obstacles and successes for handling these issues and situation . What has worked in the past?
  • Tune-in to how you think (inner self-talk) and feel about the situation and people involved?
  • What have you tried or are trying to remedy the situation or solve the problem?
  • How do I access my strengths and focus on hitting the mute button of internal negative self-talk? Just letting go by staying in the moment.

      3.  A = increase self awareness  and accept and listen to self-talk and other viewpoints by clarifying, asking questions and restating ideas and reflecting in calm manner the circumstances of a situation. Then doing what  needs to be done to accomplish our goals through Smart Steps action.

  •      4.  C= Create solutions for opportunity finding in the “here and now and the future”. Review present knowledge, skills, behavior and attitude about the situation from a technical, people, strategic and urgent point of view.

      5. H= How to’s of Behavioral and Mental Action Plan to overcome obstacles… the  WHAT,  HOW to think and Behave to be successful.  Also, review resources and support needed and commit to reviewing progress at a specific time in the future. Capture learning outcomes between self-coaching sessions in Personal Learning Journal.