Reflection #21: A Model for Leadership– Alan Grayson a Profile in Courage

“Words are like heavy burdens for some. Like rocks or weights on your back. If birds talked they might not fly.” 

President Obama is carrying a heavy burden in trying to live up to his lofty words–Change You can believe in, Yes, we can etc and now the  Nobel Peace Prize adds to the expectations. An example of “high expectations” is Health Care Reform.  His promise during the campaign season on Universal Health has morphed many times during the last nine months.  At first, the talk was about the need and right of all Americans to Health Care through an ambitious and long over due single payer system like “Medicare for All”.  The “Single-payer” idea was thrown under the bus before it was even given a chance, then a public option to provide competition for insurance companies is being attacked by opponents as a government takeover and a Co-Op Health System was too hard to figure out. So, the latest compromise being discussed is to just let the States choose whether to adopt a public option or not. What a mess is created when there is little leadership shown on driving a simple, clear, and consistent message.  As we all know words are cheap, but action and follow-through are hard because it requires courage, risk, and an understandable message delivered over and over again.

Obama and his team seem to be ready to settle for any bill so they can  justify the time and political capital spent on this intractable problem. Maybe they need to reflect on this powerful message from Eric Hoffer, long time change philosopher and longshoremen. Hoffer said: “In human affairs every solution only sharpens the problem, to show us more clearly what we are up against, there are no FINAL SOLUTIONS.”  

President Obama the time for leadership is now. Leaders Serve Period, so no more waiting for others to carry the burden of action. You and your team must step-up, people are dying everyday. The following speech by Alan Grayson, House Rep from Florida, demonstrates the assertive and “profiles in courage” we need. Please Mr. President show this to your team and stop fiddling around. 

Poem: The Cry For Acceptance

The Cry for Acceptance–MW. Hardwick 

I’m a Person, don’t drive me away.

I’m a person, take, like me the way I am.

I’m a person, value my worth.

I’m a person, don’t drive me away.

I’m a person, don’t get too close.

I’m a person, let me remain withing my walls.

I’m a person who accepts myself  warts and all,

I’m a person who lives life fully.

I’m a person who wants to make a difference. 

I’m person, don’t drive me away.

I’m a person, respect my differences 

I’m a person, don’t make my mistakes awful.

I’am a person, don’t drive me away

I’m person, please understand me.

I’m a person, you are a person, go away closer.

I’m person, let me be …

How to Stop Irrational Ideas and Attitude: Develop Bullshit Support Team

 “It all starts in your head…(Success) begins by trying to make each day count…If you sincerely try to make each day a masterpiece, angles can do no better.”  John Wooden, Hall of Fame Basketball Coach, UCLA 

 Irrational Ideas that Block Your Growth and Development  

  1. Need to be loved or approved by everyone–Give credit away and recognition will come  
  2. Differences make people bad, evil or stupid–Not stupid just different. Differences wwiden your perspective and help update your mental maps.
  3. Life is awful when things are not like we want them to be. Not awful just inconvenient. Continue reading “How to Stop Irrational Ideas and Attitude: Develop Bullshit Support Team”

Improving Connections: Reduce Self-Defeating Negative Thinking

The beginning of knowledge is the discovery of something we are not aware of and do not understand.” George Herbert Mead

 The other day I was talking to an elderly, accomplished, and well-educated man, who is a legend in his own mind.  He came unglued about the “socialist” country Obama was creating with all the bailouts.  His anger was irrational and visceral.   Of course, he was carrying Rush Limbaugh’s water and talking points.  This is a guy who rarely questions his beliefs.  I have noticed time and time again his inability to give credit to other people’s ideas and his focus on the peripheral.  Now some people might call this narcissism or self-centered. I call it irrational thinking and unconscious incompetence (you don’t know what you don’t know). 

 What does research in psychology tell us about self-defeating and irrational thinking of this kind? Continue reading “Improving Connections: Reduce Self-Defeating Negative Thinking”

Finding Meaning in Life: A Different Point of View–Victor Frankl’s Self Transcendance

“Life ultimately means taking the responsibility to find the right answer to its problems and to fulfill the tasks which it constantly sets for each individual.”  Victor Frankl

According to  the American Journal of Psychiatry, Dr. Victor Frankl’s work is “perhaps the most significant thinking since Freud and Adler.” Beyond Freud and Adler, Dr. Frankl spells out a very powerful approach to finding meaning in life where happiness is a by product of living a life that does not focus on yourself, money or materialism. Continue reading “Finding Meaning in Life: A Different Point of View–Victor Frankl’s Self Transcendance”


” There’s such a thing as trying to hard. You’ve got to sing like you don’t need the money–Love like you’ll never get hurt–you got to dance like nobody’s watching–It’s got to come from the heart if you want it to work.”  Song  “Come from the Heart ” by Kathy Mattea

How do you go about living a more passionate life? Start with identifying what you love to do. Then identify your strengths for being able to do these things you love.  Continue reading “TO find MEANING–IGNITE PASSIONS, KNOW YOUR STRENGTHS AND CHALLENGE YOUR MENTAL MAPS”

Secrets of Coaching: Power of T.R.U.S.T.



Five- Step Master Coaching and Change Model


Step 1.  TELL the Truth to yourself and others – Be clear on change wanted and goals. Tell truth to yourself and others… no lies, be authentic, open and do the right thing in interaction. (Stop)

  Continue reading “Secrets of Coaching: Power of T.R.U.S.T.”