Even though Trump likes to dump out unexpected comments and tweets the chances of solving communication and interpersonal problems with a one-way approach of “my way or the highway” are very small.
I would recommend a meeting to align expectations and push through barriers of frustration.
Pinch Model: Mapping the Solution of Aligning Expectations and Assumptions
Research fact–Planned Renegotiation and the Pinch Model developed by John J. Sherwood and John C. Glidewell (1973, 1975) is based on the premise that relationships in a social system—a pair, a group, an organization, or a community—seldom proceed smoothly or as planned or expected. The model describes how social systems are established, become stabilized and aligned so that work can get done and how change can enter the system. When these expectations are disrupted it is called a “pinch” and if not resolved to the satisfaction of both parties can lead to uncomfortable and unproductive relationships and even interpersonal “crunches”, like termination of the relationship.
Pinch and Crunch Model Steps:
Quote: “It is well to cultivate a friendly feeling towards error, to treat it as a companion inseparable from our lives, as something having a purpose which it truly has.” – Maria Montessori
Process and methods for learning from mistakes is critical for growth. Being open and reflective about mistakes increases our ability to learn and change. The ability to be reflective supports the growth of our brain and moves us to take more risks so we can move from a fixed and closed mindset toward more growth in our daily actions. This type of action makes us more effective learners and frees us to perform at our best level.
The critical ways to develop a more effective way to learn from mistakes is highlighted in a article by Dr. Eduardo Briceno for Mindset Works. In the article entitled, Mistakes and the Growth Mindset Dr. Briceno points out that the keys to learning from mistakes are deliberative practice, challenging ourselves and openness to growing our abilities through effort
In other words don’t give-up when you attempt to perform new activities. Remember we are all able to enjoy growth and learning throughout life, no matter what our current level of ability is. Nobody can ever take that source of learning and growth away from us.
Mistakes are not all created equal, and they are not always desirable and sometimes dangerous . In addition, learning from mistakes is not all automatic. In order to learn from them the most we need to reflect on our errors and extract lessons from them.
If we’re more precise in our own understanding of mistakes and in our communication with students, it will increase their understanding, buy-in, and efficacy as learners.
“Everyone has inside of them a piece of good news.
Good news is that you don’t know how great you can be.
How much you can love!
What you can accomplish!
What your potential is! ”
Reflection: Identify your good news or strengths to overcome fears. Do it now don’t wait. Coach Mark
Memorable Quote: “There is nothing more frightening than the moment we expose our ideas to the world.”Dr. Brene Brown
A great speech about how critics and our self doubts keep us from being more creative in our work and lives. Dr. Brown uses the platform of the 99U conference to talk about what it means to be in the “arena” of hard work and presenting our ideas can make us feel vulnerable and less confident. She cites Teddy Roosevelt’s quote as being her inspiration for having the courage to say and do what really matters to her in living a daring and fulfilling life. Please read the following quote and then listen to her down to earth and inspiring presentation that highlights how to deal with self-doubt and fear when living an open and caring life based on solid values and your truth.
Teddy Roosevelt’s “Citizenship In A Republic” delivered at the Sorbonne, in Paris on 23 April, 1910. The Man in the Arena quote:
It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena, whose face is marred by dust and sweat and blood; who strives valiantly; who errs, who comes short again and again, because there is no effort without error and shortcoming; but who does actually strive to do the deeds; who knows great enthusiasms, the great devotions; who spends himself in a worthy cause; who at the best knows in the end the triumph of high achievement, and who at the worst, if he fails, at least fails while daring greatly, so that his place shall never be with those cold and timid souls who neither know victory nor defeat.
Daily Quote and Challenge:
Albert Einstein once said, “If I had an hour to solve a problem and my life depended on the solution, I would spend the first 55 minutes determining the proper question to ask, for once I knew the proper question, I could solve the problem in less than five minutes.”
Through experience and reflection Einstein knew he had to understand an issue deeply before addressing it. In order for his solution to have the most meaningful impact. You need to overcome the core, often hidden problem in your work — not just the visible stumbling block.
Challenge: Over the next 24 hours identify a problem or issue in your life; then use the proven WOOP method to set goals to solve it. WOOP stands for Wish, Outcome, Obstacle, and Plan. WOOP has been shown to significantly improve effort, homework completion, attendance, and even GPA when the method is done with fidelity.
Good Luck and Enjoy. Coach Mark
My Take: When people show and tell you who they are belief them. Don’t normalize what they say or do. Don’t make excuses for them or rationalize their behavior. Just accept what they are saying and doing as the person they really are. They are either self-aware, competent, and comfortable in their own skin or just insecure, immature, ego-manics incapable of telling the truth. Trump is simply a delusional ASSHOLE who thinks he is above the law and that the rest of us are fools. Period. End of story. This is the guy we as Americans elected. Really !!! Is this guy who want to be our leader. Please wake-up and rethink what we as Americans want from our leaders before it is too late.