Reflections: On Openness and Authenticity

Daily Quote:  “Authenticity is a collection of choices that we have to make every day. It’s about the choice to show up and be real. The choice to be honest. The choice to let our true selves be seen.” ― Brené Brown

Reflection: The core dimension of openness is authenticity. Without it, communication can quickly become defensive and the potential for connection through openness is lost. For this reason we monitor our true feelings about a person or situation and hold back from providing candid and explicit feedback. This can lead us into a foolish game of creating private and public personas.  In part we’re not clear about how we want to “show up” when confronted with a “connection moment” and in part we’re afraid of the impact we imagine our honesty might have. To become more authentically direct, assertive and truthful we need to first clarify our intention and transform it into an honest commitment to share our thoughts and feelings even though it can be risky. We need to align our inner and public selves”—the parts of ourselves we share with the world—and our “private selves” where our truths, ideals and fears reside. To do that, it’s important to understand why “going public” with our private thoughts, wants, and ideas feels so risky.

Challenge: Take some time at the end of today to assess your ability and fears of being more authentic with others.


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