New Year Resolutions and Goals: We love them, we hate them, and we all have difficulty fulfilling them. Setting too many general goals is the downfall for most of —exercise more, find a new job opportunity, eat right, save more money, spend more time with the kids and family, be more positive, go to the dentist, take your medication, buy a new car, finish writing your novel, complete your college degree etc. We all set them even if we don’t write them down ( research shows this helps with completing them) and we all have excuses why we don’t complete them—too busy, too many goals set at one time, I forgot them, no willpower, so little time to accomplish them or poor motivation and no plan to complete them. So what does the science of Growth psychology say about how to go about achieving them? What do you need to know and do to make your goals become a reality?
While there is no magic wand that you can simply wave to achieve your goals; there are some proven methods and techniques that give you a better than 50/50 chance of reaching them. Here is what I found from the research and my own experience that can make your goals a reality rather than a pipe dream. Just execute more effectively against these recommended steps to ensure you achieve the goals you set. Let’s explore the “Plus One” smart steps you can take but keep in mind that you are uniquely and wonderfully made; so take what you can use and tailor it to fit your situation and needs. This isn’t a one-size-fits-all people formula for success. It’s about the adventure for finding the ways that work for you and your situation. By picking and using some of these mindset tools and proven techniques for personal change you will stay focused on achieving the goals you set for your everyday living and will be on the road to a more meaningful and purposeful life.
Step 1: Increase your Self-Efficacy and Believe in Yourself
Believing in yourself means confronting and overcoming your doubts about yourself. It means discovery and applying your strengths and learning new skills. Interesting concept: it takes an element of self-understanding and a commitment to reaching you potential. Believe in yourself. We all have certain dreams and perceptions.
However, when the dreams and perceptions are shattered, successful people look at things through positive eyes and view it as a new opportunity.
2. Use Plus One SMART STEP process to create specific goals that are realistic, measurable and achievable over a specific time period.
Effective goals are specific (How much weight do you want to lose? How much time will you spend with family each week? How much money do you want to invest monthly? What one thing do you need to do more of to complete that book you have been working on for years? realistic given your present life style and situation, measurable and with set time deadlines. The key to effective goal setting is being realistic and specific about the behavior you want to change. Being able to manage the goal completion process takes persistence, patience and clarity of purpose.
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