- Smile . Work on it. Smiling builds connections with others. This one may sound obvious but it’s the critical observable difference between happy and unhappy people. Think about your happiest friends. Think President Obama. His smile pulls you in and provides a calming feeling. It says things are tough but okay. Building a habit of smiling , if it is genuine is very comforting to others. A smile is a pleasant surprise and disarming. Try increasing you’re smiling everyday for the next week. The world will be a friendlier and more engaging place for it and you will feel better about yourself.
- MMFI– Make others feel important and accepted. William James, the great philosopher once wrote, ” the deepest human need is the need to be appreciated.” Who are you going to show appreciation for today?
- Build a Happy Circle. Research has found that happy people tend to hang out with other happy people. This is the old cliché of “Birds of Feather Flock Together.” Or on the negative side “Misery loves company”. Happy and unhappy people are attracted toward others who share their same point of view or feelings. If you’re struggling with a bout of sadness, low energy, worry, or anger, spend more time with happier and more positive people. Chances are, you’ll find that their positive attitude rubs off on you.
- Listen. Listen. Listen. Observe. Act. Work on fine tuning your active listening skills. Listening is a skill that can be learned and improved on just like golf, tennis or strategic planning. But you need to make the commitment to get really good at it. Practice the right things and understand the power of clarification, open-ended questions, paraphrasing, reflection and patience when interacting with others.