Daily Quote:”Oh, what a great gift we would have if we could only see ourselves as others see us .” – Robert Burns
Reflection: I believe that finding your own path to development is critical to any progress you want to make in changing your behavior. I have found that special friends and therapist can help. But like any selection of professional services you must be comfortable with the helper and their philosophy. I have found and develop one process that may fit your needs and style for receiving help and support. This process is called Interjective Coaching which entails a partnership with a trusted friend or coach/therapist. The key elements are open communication, observation constructive feedback, active listening and collaborative problem solving not advice giving.
Interjective coaching represents the reframing of mental maps to understand that improving performance requires the ability to assess current performance and be open to feedback that can improve future performance levels.
The process focuses on providing support (focusing on strengths), and providing observational feedback in real time (focusing on areas for improvement–gestures, appearance, and obstacles/fears interfering with optimal performance), and taking action that aligns clear thinking with behavior.
Interjective coaching is a process that promotes trust and open communication through caring confrontation. Interjective coaching is empathic understanding delivered through non-judgmental support.
The skill-building process involves the following seven components of Interjective Coaching:
- Observe me and provide feedback on my present behavior
- Provide behavioral interventions on how to do things differently (Give me the “know why” as well as the “know how”)
- Show me how to do it (Model the complete skill for me)
- Let me try it (One part at a time)
- Give me feedback (interjective coaching)
- Help me develop a customized action plan and identify specific behavioral tools to try out and practice.
- Develop a “continuous improvement plan and feedback loop” through deliberative practice, feedback and adjustment until I have identified the cognitive and behavioral changes that work for me.