Quote: “Don’t believe everything you think… The more you can surround your negative thinking with compassion, the easier it will be to dissolve it and move on.” Meg Selig
Reflection: Recently, I was doing research on the positive and negative effects of self-talk. Of course, I reviewed Albert Ellis’s theory of ABC and Tim Gallwey’s Inner Game concepts and framework. Again I found the review stimulating but still remained confused on how to apply these techniques to everyday situations. To be spontaneous and authentic you can’t go around in life and stop to ponder how to react so as not to offend someone. Then while reviewing Psychology Today blog I discovered Meg Selig.
In essence, she provides a framework called R.A.I.N.–Basically, the RAIN technique states that when you are in a situation where negative thinking habits are making you suffer and overwhelm your ability to think clearly consider this tool way to soften and re-channel harmful thoughts and negative patterns. Buddhist teachers and therapists such as Tara Brach often teach the RAIN technique to bring mindful awareness to emotional distress and provide a relaxing approach for controlling emotional pain. Supposedly, The RAIN technique can help you be your own best friend instead of your own worst critic. Here are the basic steps you can take to RAIN on your parade of negative thoughts, soothe yourself, and move on.
Activity Challenge : This week develop a routine for relaxing and keeping your negative thoughts from making it a good week.