“I have come to a frightening conclusion.
I am the decisive element in the classroom.
It is my personal approach that creates the climate.
It is my daily mood that makes the weather.
As a teacher I possess tremendous power to make a child’s life miserable or joyous.
I can be a tool of torture or an instrument of inspiration.
I can humiliate or humor, hurt or heal.
In all situations, it is my response that decides whether a crisis
will be escalated or de-escalated, and a child humanized or de-humanized. Dr.Haim Ginott, Between Teacher and Child
Reflection: Haim Ginott is one of my all time favorites when it comes to common sense not commonly practiced in relationships especially when dealing difficult interactions. I think he nails the approach which works best in crisis situations or when the person be it a child, spouse or a friend. His advise that our attitude determines whether an interaction is experienced as positive or negative is important tool in our arsenal for better interpersonal interactions.
Action Assignment: The next time their is out gurst in your family and things are ready to get over heated try these two techniques instead of yelling shouting or gatting out of control
1. Step back and take a deep breath and say to yourself STOP
2. Remain CALM AND IN A MATTER OF FACT VOICE SAY TO THE CHILDREN–WHEN YOU—-START YELLING-AT YOUR BROTHER——————-I FEEL-ANGER, FRUSTRATED————————– BECAUSE——WE CAN’T CONTINUE TO TO SHOP —————- SO UNTIL THINGS CALM AND YOU CAN TAKE TURNS TALKING WE ARE NOT GOING TO SHOP ANY MORE. sEE IF THIS APPROACH DOESN’T EASE TENSION AND STOP THE ESCALATION OF EMOTIONAL REACTIONS.