“Whoever you are, no matter how lonely, the world offers itself to your imagination,
call to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting –over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.” — Mary Oliver
We have all experienced unexpected bad news in our lives. Loss job, foreclosure on house, missing deadlines, divorce, disappointing presentation, cheating spouse, car accident, death of loved ones love etc. It is amazing to me how these problems come at us one bullet at a time , yet somehow most of us endure and move on. Life doesn’t stop because we feel overwhelmed and stuck it continues to present us ever day hazels, opportunities, wonder and pain.
At times things are really difficult and we try not to be hurt or stopped in a journey. We need to muster courage and step-up or we face the risk of fear and pain being in the driver seat of our bus. We must find ways to adapt and snap back to handle these outside problems. Remembering that life is difficult and at times can be unfair. I have hung this reminder by Scott Peck, M.D. from his book The Road Less Traveled, on my study wall: ” Life is difficult. This is a great truth, one of the greats truths… Once we truly understand and accept it –then life is no longer difficult. Because once it is accepted, the fact that life is difficult no longer matters.”
Meaningful Life Principles
1. Life is difficult accept it
2. Be more proactive and courageous. Constantly try to be more aware and attentive by anticipating challenges, confronting problems and identifying solutions. The key is to be more flexible, open and resilient through actively in engaging your imagination and using your skills for continuous learning. Refuse to allow yourself to give-up by believing in your self and your abilities to handle anything that comes your way.
3. Learn to manage yourself from an inside-out focus. Understand that our greatest struggles in life are not from others or outside events but from our thoughts and self-talk.
4.Don’t go anyplace without a map. If you don’t have a map or plan you may just wander around loss or hoping to get lucky. You have choices so change your mental maps to reflect reality.
5. Life is a mystery. YOU have the power to write your own play from opening to close. Take control and do what you have to do to make a difference and create your own meaning. Life does not have to be “one damned horrid grind” as Charles Dickens once said.
6. Life beyond yourself. Support and contribute to something that is greater than yourself. Try executing against the Jesuit principle–“Be a Man for Others”. As Emerson once said, “our task in life is to leave the world a bit better than we found it”.