Our view of reality is like a map with which to negotiate the terrain of life. If the map is true and accurate, we will generally know where we are, and if we have decided where we want to go, we will generally know how to get there. If the map is false and inaccurate, we generally will be lost.” M. Scott Peck Author
The essence of Meaningful Living Process is to develop a personal vision and strategic road map linked to goals in all areas of your life: spiritual, personal, career, recreation, relationship, family, and finances. These seven areas became the foundation for creating a plan for Meaningful and Purposeful Living.
Are you one of the many people in this world who is dissatisfied with your life? Do you run day-to-day on autopilot? Have you settled for “good enough” rather than for “excellence” ? Are risks just too risky for you to try? Are you sleep walking through life and don’t even know it? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then you are living by chance and default rather than “on purpose”.
In the next series of blogs I am going to attempt to facilitate your breakthrough and discovery of meaning and passion for life through better thinking. This meaning and purpose will go beyond your career and material success—a passion that involves your identity, your self-worth, your relationships, and your health. It is time to emerge from your sleep, embrace renew your goals, embrace new-found energy and vitality, and approach life in a more constructive manner.
Meaningful Living Personal Change Process is a practical tool that you can use to become more empathic and effective in many different situations. Change seems to happen when you have stopped “efforting” after what you think you should be and accept and experience–what you are. The magic questions are merely meant as broad guidelines to stimulate your thinking and actions. As you become aware of what is, and of what you want, you become more at ease in establishing a meaningful dialogue with yourself. You need to develop flexibility in tailoring this process to fit your unique situation. The key to success is for you to become more and more aware of how you are in charge …and all the options and choices that are yours to make in living a more constructive and fulfilling life. You start to take action on your plans; even if they are just small changes. This process will provide a simple structure for self renewal and personal coaching. Good Luck with the ML Self-Coaching model and keep us informed of your successes or when you get stuck. Remember in order to change– the new behavior must be put in place of old habits and this takes time (thirty to forty-five days). And never forget the old adage—Be the change you want to see happen.
The secret to achieving self-renewal is to learn how to take more control over your rational and irrational thoughts. This will require that you conquer the four interferences that are holding you back from living up to your greatest potential: need for approval and positive opinions of others, need for melodrama and being a tragedy queen, believe that the past is the determiner of present, and worrying about worry. By becoming aware of these prevarications and negative thought patterns you will be better equipped to respond to uncertain times and to the challenges that crop up in your daily life.
Remember when you have an emotion, you first perceive it. Next you think and believe something about your perceptions. Then you have a gut feeling caused by your thoughts about an idea, person or situation and then you make a choice and act accordingly. Key concept is that actions usually follow feelings (positive or negative) not facts or events. In essence your thoughts cause your feelings so to change your behavior you must think differently. So in order to gain momentum for self-renewal it’s time to start to think rationally about your thinking so you can live a more meaningful and constructive life. As Maxie Maultsby, M.D. once said “You have to think better before you’ll feel better”.